It has been exactly one month since I have posted. I was on a roll, I was inspired, I was fired up, but then I just dropped the ball. I got too “busy” as we all tend to do, and I let my blog slip through the cracks. See, I have come to realize that being creative is like exercising, at least in the beginning, you must keep yourself going or you will sway off the trail so fast. You must commit to finding what keeps you fired up in creating, like in exercising, because it’s the thing that brings you joy. I love writing this blog and it feels good to be back.
This week I have been thinking a lot about keeping promises. We all can keep promises for other people, right? We show up to work five days a week, we show up to birthdays, we promise to take care of those we love. No doubt, we are committed to keeping promises to those around us, yet how often do we keep promises to ourselves? No really, think about the last time you made a promise to yourself. It might have been a new year’s resolution or a promise to workout during quarantine, maybe a promise to read a book. Did you keep your promise to yourself? Did you follow through the way you would for a friend? How crazy is it that we must find a gym buddy to hold us accountable to make it to our workouts? Why can’t we just keep a promise to ourselves?
I don’t know that answer, but I know that if anyone broke as many promises to us as we do to ourselves, we would cut that person out of our lives as fast as blocking them on Instagram. We are the most unreliable people when it comes to our goals, so I have decided to stop treating myself as a secondary citizen. I would never bail on a friend or family member the way I do for myself, so I grabbed my computer at 9 PM even though I have to be up at 5 AM just because I am keeping a promise. A promise to commit to my blog because it is something that I enjoy. In the last week I have kept small promises to myself. For example, I started reading a book I have been wanting to start since Christmas, I have been packing my lunch because I am working in the office this week, and I have been drinking more water.
The key to keeping these promises is to set the goals that you know you can do in a short time frame. I did not set out to finish the book in a week because I know I would fail. There’s no way I can commit to making my lunch everyday for a month because I like to go out with coworkers here and there. I have decided to start somewhere instead of aiming for perfect. Whatever the goal is for you, set it, and keep that promise to yourself as though you were doing it for a loved one. Eventually, you will make and keep promises for yourself because you are worth it.
I believe this is how we begin to trust our abilities. We cannot know what we are capable of unless we follow through with our plan. No more half-ass excuses of tomorrow I’ll start, I don’t have the time, or I don’t know how. Think of all the tomorrows we have never started. What if we did start them, better yet what if we accomplished them? We only have time for the things we make time for, and lastly, “I don’t know how” does not exist in the age of Google and YouTube. Start however and whenever you can. Think about how good it would feel to actually workout three times a week, to read a chapter of that book, or to get through that pile of laundry today.
This concept of keeping promises to yourself was first introduced to me by Rachel Hollis, she is a motivational speaker and the author of Girl, Wash Your Face. She sets up a list of 5 non-negotiables, five things that she will not give up any day. 5 promises to keep every day. No matter what. My goal this week is to set up those 5 things that I cannot go without doing. I challenge you to do the same. Chica, ámate a ti misma, valora tu tiempo y cumple tus promesas.
Thank you for coming to Listen To Your Latina. Please let me know what promises you have kept to yourself, and which ones you plan on keeping!